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Updated: Jun 28, 2021

There is a critical and often hidden aspect of sexualized violence that converges between trauma and rape culture and silences those that encounter it. Unacknowledged rape is an experience of sexual assault that is consistent with the legal definition of rape, but the individual does not acknowledge or conceptualize the label. Not acknowledging can result from several factors such as the dominant discourses of victim blaming, the meaning and interpretation of language, barriers to resources and affirming support, and a lack of comprehensive sexual education.

In this context, only specific stereotypical situations qualify as “valid or legitimate” (i.e., violent, forceful, perpetuated by a stranger, etc.), and even then, the system that was built on men owning women through marriage has imprints of the belief that rape is a consequence for those that do not conform to traditional gender roles. As a result, when a person experiences something so emotionally violent, their own trauma responses can impact their meaning-making process, making if difficult to comprehend, let alone communicate to others, or reach out for help.

Understanding what unacknowledged rape is, how it occurs, and how it is supported within society and across systems and institutions is the first step in addressing and calling attention to the need for support, advocacy and education.

This is a mini snapshot from my Master’s thesis that is very near and dear to my heart. I would love to share more of what I learned!

Please share your thoughts, reactions, questions, and ideas for advocacy in the comments.

Updated: Jun 28, 2021

As we move into AAPI heritage month, it is so important to acknowledge and reflect on collective cultural history within these communities. Informing ourselves of the past allows us to set a path forward and to shine a light on where our efforts can be planned, implemented, and sustained as we continue supporting and advocating.

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Updated: May 19, 2021

How are you doing today? how are you really?

The more we check in with ourselves through mindful and intentional ways, the less intimidating that question can be.

More and more research has shown how significant the mind/body connection truly is. Anxiety, stress, depression...anything psychological arises somatically within the physical body. We are energetic beings and that energy can get stuck.

For me, anxiety is a normal state of being, but when I don’t acknowledge it, my anxiety shows up through headaches, jaw clenching, neck and shoulder pain, and tummy aches. And when I feel like that, it just communicates to me that I need to check in with myself -I need to release it somehow by journaling, singing, or dancing it out. I need to let all my energy get flowing again -to refresh and nourish myself.

I have created 2 sheets for you to check out. Feel free to download, print, save on your phone, copy into your journal...

-The first one is a mental health check in and there's space for you to reflect.

-The second one is a self-care challenge to dare you all to take care of yourselves in new ways!

There's so many more ideas, so let us know in the comments other mental health check ins or self-care rituals that you do!

Mental Health Check In Sheet
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Self-care Challenge Sheet
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